"We" Talk

"We love that show."
"We like ham and pineapple on our pizza."
"We love that band."
"We really like the park on sunny days."

We Talk or Talking in the We's is what I commonly refer to as the morphing of mind and spirit that some couples seem to slip into after only a few short months of dating.  This is particularly confusing when there is only one person present, as the term "we" implies plural persons.

It saddens me to mourn the mind and spirit of my previously single friends; friends who just a short while ago held their own opinions and made their own plans and decisions.  These friends stuck in such couples are quick to lose their own identity for the notion of closeness and a sense of commitment and permanency to their relationships.  I do get some of it; you have a partner that you share activities with and you happen to have common interests, but how can you expect me to know who you're talking about when you say "we" and it's just the two of us and I know you're not referring to you and I??  It's as though the person I befriended and found so incredible, no longer seems to have a mind of their own.  The irony, or the good news for those who find it as annoying as I do,  is the We Talk doesn't become common vernacular for the couples that truly make it.  Just look at any couple that's been married for years, for instance- my parents.  They celebrate each others' minds and enjoy their time apart just as much as their time together.  They take interest in the conversations that come from varied opinions and hobbies.  We Talk may indicate the demise of your relationship, unless you're careful it doesn't mean the death of your mind and spirit.  Make your own plans. Have your own opinions. Wasn't it your mind and spirit that your beloved fell for??

One thing is certain- I will never speak in the "We's."